- Let’s see what the Bible says about that.
- “Stand up when a woman enters the room.” And, you better offer her your seat to a lady and to the elderly (I got lots of opportunities to practice that on public transportation in Chile. Dad was rarely with me, but his voice rang in my head. I could not not stand up and offer my seat to a lady or an elderly person).
- Treat all women with respect. This was especially driven home once when as a teen I once used a derogatory slang word for women. Bad idea. Believe me I have not used it since. Would not even think of it. Never.
- “Respect your elders.”
- “Be ye kind one to another, even if it is your brother.”
- When fighting with my siblings: “I don’t care who started it, I’m going to finish it.”
- “If you have to fight to defend yourself that’s OK. But never fight anyone smaller than you.”
- Related to that, “The bigger they are, the harder the fall.” Although, I didn’t really seek too many opportunities to test that theory.
- “We’ll see how that works with your first boss.” Said when as a sullen fifteen year old I said something along the lines of “I’ll just do what I want. If I don’t want to do what someone tells me, I just won’t.”
- “Ohhhhhh. That’s it. I quit. No more.” When as a fifteen year old I finally bested him in a wrestling match by flipping him over my head and him landing flat on his back.
- Total, absolute honesty and integrity. Said, modeled, and taught in more ways than I can describe.
- “If you lie about what happened you will be in more trouble for the lie than for what you did.” Wish politicians who try to cover things up would learn this one.
- “It’s a great big, wonderful world.” Which he stills says regularly, especially when things are not that wonderful.
- “I will do the best I can with what I have for Jesus’ sake today.”
- “Ah, the good ole days. You can have ‘em.”
- Treat all people with respect, whether rich or poor, educated or not. Similarly, approach them all the same – no need to either lord in over the one or be intimidated by the other.
- When dealing with someone who is far less educated or has far less knowledge, there is no need to correct them on everything. You don’t have to be right, and much less prove you are right, about everything.
- Some people regularly use vulgarity or curse words only because they are too ignorant or too lazy to express themselves otherwise.
- As I am heading out the door to drive somewhere: “Be careful. Watch out for the other idiot.”
- Sometimes it is a good idea to call your kids’ bluff. When I was sixteen and living in Chile, the time came for several missionary families to head back to the States for furlough. I and two other sixteen year old missionary kids told (not asked) our Dads that we wanted to hop a freighter in Valparaiso, Chile, sail to Australia, spend a couple of weeks there, hop another freighter and head to the U.S. Anticipating their objections, we had our know-it-all teen-age answers ready. The three Dads just looked at each other and all said, “Sure. Sounds like a great idea. Go ahead.” We were stunned. Now what were we going to do? So, we did . . . nothing.
My Dad recently turned 85. I am now 60. The older both of us get, the more I appreciate him, the man he is, and all he taught me. Some of these are quoted directly (as best as I remember them) and some are principles or concepts I learned more by observation or over a longer period of time. How many of you learned similar things from your Dad?
Terry Coy -- husband, father, grandfather. Trying to figure it out while on the journey with Jesus.